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Fidelity and betrayal are two sides of same coin we call as a "covenant of love." The fidelity

is the cardinal point of this pact. It can be seen as passive loyalty, or a moral rigidity, allegiance to the other body, and an active loyalty, fidelity corresponding to the person, or with the decision to betray the other for a choice of value and not for "fear of a hypothetical punishment." The betrayal

instead represents the breaking of the covenant of love. It 'an action that necessarily changes the status and relations previously existing between people, disappoint the trust and expectations and then breaking the tie.

We could say that the betrayal breaks everyday because then leads the couple to separate what happened before and what happened after that event.

Psychologically we are facing in the betrayal of trust all'infrangersi primary, leading to clearly distinguish themselves from the Other.

Specifically, there are three stages in betrayal :

- one where you fantasized

- one where you acted

- that in which it is discovered .

Following its discovery, in general, feelings are presented in the following order:

- the anger that can sometimes result in failure of the final report;

- the desire for revenge , which, however, allows you to process what happened;

- the loss of self accompanied to feel devalued, diminished, the sense of loss of confidence on the other and that part of themselves that had been entrusted.

against treachery betrayed usually put in place defenses . These include: the denial, the betrayed partner defines the faithless as a negative person, poor and unreliable erasing any possible positive view of him, and cynicism or distrust, and show the betrayed contempt for everyone and everything so abolishing 'all feeling positive power paranoid, or betrayed trying to protect themselves from future dangers by checking the traitor with distrust and blackmail, ask for proof of devotion and loyalty, to reach out to a destruction of the love relationship that will instead only and exclusively a power relationship where people who have been betrayed and will not stop attacking those who have betrayed not stop reassuring.

This characterizes the experience of betrayal with destabilizing aspects of vulnerability, dependence and self-devaluation for those subjected to it. Dr.

Claudia Distefano