Betrayal: end or new beginning? Very often leads to break the betrayal of the couple, but sometimes it is, paradoxically, is the place to start to rebuild a bond.
then it is interpreted as a " divergence to convergence," or an opportunity to recover an interrupted dialogue and find their ability to relate and to love. In this case hinges on not only through the acceptance phase but also through that of forgiveness.
Choosing acceptance not excuse the person who made a mistake, especially when it seems to show no intention of reparation: rather we seek to better understand the circumstances involved. With this understanding, and without denying the pain, we can reestablish our freedom and inner peace, feelings that come from having been able to react with an open heart at a loss. This increases our security and sense of personal power in a world full of risks. It 'clear that by accepting, and forgiving, the nature of the relationship may change forever. Certainly it is easier to accept that you have been wronged by someone who do not attend every day, as a friend or family member who has behaved badly.
The forgiveness, however, is much more complex interpersonal process that requires a great effort by those who have betrayed him. And it is the best way for all couples who, torn by the discovery of an affair, they want to recover their relationship. The unfaithful partner must, however, take responsibility for its conduct, must be able to understand the deep pain of others and through their actions show they wanted to repair trustworthy. This can take time and effort. For many people forgive or be forgiven is really too tiring. Some couples however, have overcome their problems and are back together well, with fullness and satisfaction. It takes courage, patience, perseverance and, often, even the help of a therapist who helps facilitate the entire process.
Dr. Claudia Distefano
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