dependency is not created solely and exclusively of substance, but also by reports that the individual has with its environment. It usually indicates a link between an individual submission and another person, group, object, behavior, ...
From a psychological point of view, the subject "employee" is characterized by a lack of autonomy and capacity to make decisions autonomous, often has a vision of themselves as needy, fragile, as the "victim". Dependence on these subjects initiated against objects or persons is closely linked to their need not to feel inadequate and to experience a positive self image.
In many cases we are talking about emotional dependency, but what is it?
the subject is the emotional dependency, as the term itself, dependent on an emotional - affective established with another person. It indicates a relationship of submission that the individual states with each other, where it is the "relationship" to become the object of employees.
Where does the emotional dependency?
The origin of this dependence is to be found in the context of earlier reports with significant figures. Although it may seem paradoxical sets in a dependency because you need love! From early childhood the child is dependent on their caregivers, both for their own basic needs of hunger, thirst, cold and for their emotional needs. If the relationship between the subject in childhood and the adult will be characterized by acceptance, respect and care the child will grow and empathic responsive autonomous, independent, self-assured and confident in their abilities and in others, contrary will develop insecure and need constant confirmation.
In emotional dependence, or risk losing their own identity, the person constantly and obsessively pursues the reassurance, attention and love .
The relationship with the other, with your partner, apparently appears to be a loving relationship, but is described as a relationship of "need." The subject emotionally dependent lives a report full of anxiety, fear and insecurity as it is too concentrated to "ask" love, care and attention. We find ourselves faced with a fusional relationship.
Who is under the thumb of this kind of dependence is often an insecure person with low self-esteem, fear of abandonment and separation anxiety. The subject of establishing a relationship just to fill their fears and their needs.
The person with emotional dependency is characterized by:
ü Fear of losing love
ü fear of loneliness, abandonment and the Order of the solutes
ü mostrrsi for fear of what is and is not accepted as such
ü sense of inferiority towards the partenr, which is seen as a "hero" and "savior"
ü Guilt
ü Jealousy
ü Resentment and possessiveness
In a more specific between thoughts and emotional experiences applicants we can find:
ü tendency to underestimate the effort related to what is intended to help your loved one get to the point, without perceiving time, high levels of physical and psychological stress;
ü terror of which leads to even do things previously unthinkable just to avoid the end of the report;
ü tendency to habitually take the responsibility and the guilt of married life;
ü extremely self-esteem low, resulting in a profound conviction that I do not deserve happiness;
ü tendency to feed fantasies of how it could be related to their relationship as a couple if the partner change, rather than to rely on thoughts related to the current ratio and real
ü propensity to feel attraction to people with contemporary indifference and apathy towards people friendly, balanced, trustworthy, instead arouse boredom.
Giddens studying the emotional dependency identified some c eatures specific this dependence, namely:
ü 's intoxication: the subject emotionally dependent on a feeling of exhilaration from the relationship with partner, in a more specific experiences euphoria depending on the reactions expressed by the partners over its behavior.
ü the dose: the search for patients 'doses' increasing presence and time to spend with your partner, the His absence throws in a state of prostration. The subject exists only when there is another and not enough to reassure her thoughts, needs continuous and tangible manifestations. The other is an escape, a source of gratification only, so that it arrives to neglect the normal daily activities such as work activities and relationships.
ü the loss of self: the emotional dependency, there is a high risk of loss of self, one's critical faculties and thus also critical of the other, seen as essential nutrients. The sense loss of identity is followed by feelings of shame and remorse. In fact, some moments, you feel something distorted in relation to the other, that addiction is harmful and that they would want to do less, but the finding of being trapped in a model employee feels unworthy, and then goes even more to embrace the other. Addiction is seen as a special experience and it is in the sense that anything else is just as good.
The person with emotional dependency and parasitic obsessively in love, asking partner to an absolute attention and devotion. Love employee is characterized by stagnation folds on itself and close to all external influences and experiences.
The scientific literature has found that emotional dependency is present mainly among women. Dr. Claudia
Distefano
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